Never Join A Club That You Can’t Leave

The problem with online Stamp Clubs is that it is almost impossible to leave.

I have joined four such clubs and they are more trouble than they are worth. Leaving is a problem. From the perspective of the clubs themselves, a person who joins and leaves destroys the continuity of their threads.

I fully understand this but it is something that a person should consider before joining. Maybe it is buried in Terms and Conditions but it is not really spelt out.

The Administrator of the Australian-based Stamp Boards might well be a very nice guy. But I find him boorish and annoying. I cannot leave and I have resolved the temptation of looking at the site by changing my password to something that I could not possibly remember.

Stamporama looks a good site. I joined briefly but probably around the time of the 2016 American Presidential Election, it was clear that the “group think” of the site was pro-Donald Trump. The problem with many sites claiming to be apolitical is that they really mean that they don’t like political discussion that is somewhat different from their own. So really in a Stamp Collecting site, I don’t want to hear sniggering about Hillary Clinton and the Hollywood elite. Stamp Collecting is certain to die (and deserves to die) if it is just about old men wearing “Make America Great Again” baseball hats who watch Fux (sic) News.  To his immense credit, the Administrator arranged for me to leave.

Stamp Exchange …the problem here is that only a very small number of members contribute. I have contributed more than my share but it is a pretty dead forum. I wrote to the Admin asking that my account be deleted but I got no reply.

Nor did I get a reply from Stamp Community Forum. It is actually a  very lively forum. Of course most threads are related to collecting in USA but I have often contributed to a long-running thread on (general) stamp collecting. Very few acknowledge my existence by replying to any post I make. I feel invisible.

In part, this is why I blog here.


About John

Dia Duit! Hello. My name is John. I am retired. I live in Ireland. I am on a five year mission to visit every city, town, village and place of historic and scenic interest in Ireland.
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7 Responses to Never Join A Club That You Can’t Leave

  1. Anthony says:

    I just joined stamp boards….I also started a stamp blog….I am not sure how it is going to go yet. When I asked if I could post the address of the new blog (and this one) instead of saying yes, they posted a link to their rules. Equally effective, but a little less than warm.
    Face to face, at the two stamp shows I have attended, I have found people to be warm and friendly.

    • John says:

      The Administrator is obsessive about how posts are formulated. Also (in my view very much enjoying the “my way or the highway” dynamic.
      As you are now on the Board, please check out the thread “Irish Citizen Army Stamp withdrawn” . It was a case from a few years back. A stamp was withdrawn after about 10 minutes on sale. It is rare. In the conversation the Administrator was making fun of an ordinary member of the public trying to sell it on ebay. And predicting that he/she would get a bad price. To my delight the vendor got a very good price…much better than if sold to a dealer.

      • Anthony says:

        I will definitely check it out.

      • Anthony says:

        It didn’t take long for me to tire of Stampboards. I deleted my account today.
        I was scolded for not putting a descriptive enough heading in my subject line–but then the topic was locked so I couldn’t edit it.
        I wrote a new post about the difference between teaching and scolding and how students should be able to correct their work.
        I then rewrote the subject line for a new posts “What’s the best software for creating an album” but then had nothing to post in the actual message other than “the subject says it all”
        That one was locked too.
        Oh well. My experience was pretty crappy there and I am glad it is over.
        I deleted my account and my images.

      • John says:

        Yes the Administrator is a bit power-crazed.

  2. keijo says:

    You got kicked out on a stamp forum?!? WOW… That is something I have not yet managed to achieve (yet). But they do say hobbyist forums are the most dangerous places on earth, as passion and devotion flourishes there.

    As for leaving a forum/club/community… I just stop visiting a site if I no longer any joy/value from it. First few days are the worst of “cold turkey” of getting rid of the habit, but eventually life goes on.

    I have no issues leaving my words & knowledge behind. In the end they have become “their words” when I’ve joined up (all community based websites rely upon a clause where you give “perpetual and unlimited license free of charge to host, store, publish, reproduce, publicly display or otherwise use any content and materials of any type provided or contributed by you” – this is one of the foundation stones of community based interne which not just protects continuity of threads, but in general enables the concept of “user generated content” )… That said, all the above does conflict with EU’s GDPR’s (coming force May 2018 all around the globe) “right to be forgotten” policy, and I would expect that all forums/clubs/communities have to adjust their rules one way or another.


    • John says:

      No not “kicked out” but I certainly wanted to be. The guy at Stamporama was very good about it. He saw my point.
      The problem with “group think” is that certain views become a norm and those of us with alternate views can be marginalised.
      In the case of the Australian based site, I changed by password to something that I could not possibly remember like zxpqrs6pw24ddx. This means that I am tempted to look at the site.

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